Wednesday, 31 August 2016

Midweek Motivation || #singlebecause

Hello there my darlings,

So there was a hashtag trending a while back called #singlebecause. Many of you may have seen this or even been a part of it! This is actually a topic I was thinking about writing about anyway. I currently have a couple of friends in situations when it comes to the love life department & I also have not been so lucky myself recently (What are you going to do right?) So it kind of has been a subject that has been on the forefront of my mind.

Why do we do it to ourselves eh? We fall for our first loves, get our heart broken (majority of the time) pick ourselves back up & then try to do it all over again! Why? You would think we would learn our lesson but no, no, off we go, into the next disaster.... If you ask me we do it for many reasons. Anthropologically speaking we are programmed to do so. Our bodys have the same instinct as any other animal on this earth - to reproduce & to keep our species alive. Secondly we are a social species. We enjoy company & it fills our heart with joy to share our experiences with someone. Having someone around makes us feel safe & loved. Society has deemed it proper to have a significant other & I think we are only coming to an era where being single after a certain age is actually socially acceptable. 

I find it funny that whether it is at the forefront or whether it is sub-conscious we (if single) are constantly on the look out for our next love story. This causes many complications.

First off the media has totally changed the view of relationships for people. It idealises it in movies & social media #relationshipgoals , This means people are expecting so much more perfectionism & find it harder to deal with the reality of it - which is life is messy! 

Secondly - On the hunt for prince charming you are probably going to kiss many a frog - this means baggage. Lets face it, everyone's got it. Which means our view of life & relationships has slightly altered since the days of puppy love, making googly eyes across a room & passing around notes. We try not to but we all do it & we all have it. I think the best think you can do is be aware of your baggage & do the best you can to not let it destroy any new love.

Thirdly - Something I think what a lot of people forgot about is that your body & your mind look for a partner in different ways. Your body responds to hormones & pheromones, in other words who is the ideal mate to reproduce with. Your body is not monogamous, as harsh as that sounds (Dont get me wrong, respect & loyality is everything to me & would never put up with cheating) This is fact. Your brain however wants a mate who is loving, caring, shares the same interests, morals, values and intellectual standing. Your body does not care about this. I think this causes conflict within people without them even realising. 

Finally - I think modern society has made the dating world harder than ever before. Reality Tv shows encourage playing the field, so to speak. They glorify sex & more often than not exclude any thoughts of love, romance & chivalry. There is also too much choice now with the globalisation of the world through travel & social media. In the old days, in our grandparents time, they didnt travel very far. They fell in love with people from their area & their marriages lasted decades! Divorce is more common now & if you ask me some people are not putting as much thought into marriage because they know they can just get divorced! I fully believe in divorce & believe it is needed but I think people are making marital decisions a bit too lightly due to its availability.       

About 4 years ago (after yet another relationship fail) I made a promise to myself not to get into another relationship until I knew he was worth it, real deal, in it for the long haul. I have met many young men in this time & gotten to know them, however none them were for me or what I was looking for. It will happen, I have every faith in that but none of them were right. My life is important & therefore it is important who I spent in with & include in it (even when it comes to friends)

The main reason I wanted to talk about this is because it has really come to my attention That sometimes people really dont know their worth & are willing to put up with alot in order to be with the person they love. I think compromise is essential & if you are with someone you should be willing to go to hell and back for them. Give the relationship your all!! Otherwise what is the point but sometimes you are better off single. What I have just said only works if both parties are doing this! You need to be a team, willing to fight on the front line together, willing to take on the world & whatever life throws at you, while also enjoying everything it has to offer! Im kind of getting sick of watching people put their all into relationships while their partner takes it all for grant or does not treat them with the love & respect that they deserve. 

I refuse to do this. I would rather be single. I know they love them but I think It would hurt in the beginning but they would be so much happier in the end. You only get one life!! Why spend it being miserable with someone?? I think these past 4 years have been good for me! It was never intended to be 4 years & I have no set intention on how long it will be for... my stint in singletown could end in another four years... could end tomorrow. I will tell you though I have learned alot about myself, my baggage & what I am & not willing to put up with & I think that will help create the basis for a fantastic relationship in the future #fingercrossed

What are your thoughts on this topic?

Chat soon x

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Monday, 29 August 2016

2016 Goals & Resolutions Review || Beauty La Linda ~Lifestyle

Hey Friends,

So its been a minute! Yesterday I published a little catch up post on where I have been the past couple of months, so if you would like to check that out you can just click here -> Life Update || Where have I been & where am I going!?

Anywhooo Today I would like to do a little post re-evaluating all the goals & resolutions I set myself all the way back in January (Seems simultaneously like Yesterday & forever ago! Weird huh?). In doing this I can see how far I have come and also how much I have yet to do!! If you want to read the original post from January 2016 you can click here -> 2016 - Goals & Resolutions

I saw a similar post recently & remembered my goals & resolutions that I had set out for myself. It seems crazy to think of how much has actually changed in the past year! It actually blows my mind a little bit to think about it! Anyway enough with the rambling, lets jump right in!!-

YouTube & Blogging

Right so... In the beginning of the year I was really hitting my stride. I seemed to have a good schedule & routine, both working & blogging full-time... however this all changed around march when I moved three and half hours away to a completely new home, job & just general way of life. This threw my whole routine out the window!! Now I did still post but not as regularly as I had in the past. I was just trying to figure out my new life to be honest.....#badblogger! Most recently I have not had the time, energy or focus to put into my little blogs is because I am currently working towards a greater purpose... which is to do blogging full-time. Nothing excites & terrifies me more than the thought of going it alone and getting to put 100% of my time and energy into my passion!

Another thing I mentioned that I wanted to do in this category was to write a post every month on all the wonderful things that happened in that month! This is a concept that I love & although I seem to only manage to post them every 2 months rather than every month (June & July will be up next monday!) I still love doing them! Also the great thing about them is that I get to look back over the months & see all the great things that happened over the year. Its kind of like a little happiness online journal for me!!       

Plan something to look forward to each month

Now I cant say I have been keeping track to be honest but I think subconsciously I have been doing this because honestly I have had one of the best summers I have ever had. Sure I have had some not so great days & drama here and there... who hasnt? But all in all its been a fantastic summer & one I will not forget in a hurry!!

Find a nice place to live

I have to admit I did this accidentally.. I currently live in one of the most beautiful places in the world (without a shadow of a doubt) & although I will be leaving here soon it will definitely not be for long! I will be back!! However I do not live in my ideal house or in the ideal way I want to live, that is without roomates (absolutely no disrespect to them) & with a dog. That will all happen in time to come no doubt but the area I have moved to and the community I now live in #love! 

Getting healthier

Food wise in general I have been eating healthier & I have been really enjoying it. However exercise wise I really haven't been doing much at all or taking advantage or the beautiful surroundings I currently live in. Maybe I could start some fitness class in the winter when I get back to the city!?


Oh its never ending really isnt it? I mean I feel like I sort one thing out and then an avalanche of new stuff just pops out of nowhere and goes "Oh Hey!, There you are! I have been waiting for you!?" hmmfh! But alas we must keep going, keep on struggling! We will get there! I think in the past year so far I have been doing ok but definitely need to up my game in certain areas (Blogging for example... #monkeycoveringfaceemoji I will persevere however & slowly but surely I will get there #nevergiveup

Getting my car sorted

Success!! Woop Woop!! I now have my little (very little) baby parked outside ready to tend to all my driving and motoring needs. Cost me a fortune if Im honest between purchasing the car, tax, insurance, petrol, new tyres & all other maintenance that has to be carried out but I have to say... It IS worth it. There is nothing like having the freedom of your own car, being able to travel at your own leisure. I wish they were less expensive but I definitely think they are worth the investment (although I suppose this is dependent on your own lifestyle needs) 

So there you have my August 2016 update report on my goals & resolutions from January 2016!! 

Leave me a comment down below & let me know any updates on your 2016 goals & resolutions! I would love to hear how you are getting on!!

Chat Soon x

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Sunday, 28 August 2016

Life Update || Where have I been & Where am I going?

Hello Friends,

Welcome back! I have been MIA for a little while now I just wanted to write a little post here to check in with you guys a reassure that my time away from the blogging world will not be for much longer.

Now I can give you all the usual excuses that people always say which is I have been super busy & have not had a minute to myself (which is true, even the people in my real life are wondering if I have dropped off the face of the earth. No joke I had my entire family ring & text me one day to make sure I was still alive because it had been almost 2 weeks since they had heard from me! Crazy I know but I have been that busy that I had not had a chance to check in with them either)

Anyway Thats beside the point my little Haidas from the internet will only be for a short while longer. Please bare with me. I will be back soon. The reason I cant put the time and energy that I wish to right now is because I am trying to work it out so that maybe by October I will have the chance to do this full time. I will finally be able to pursue my passion & put 100% of my energy into blogging & possibly Youtube. Unfortunately in order to do this I have to put many plans in place so that I can ensure that I will be able to survive without working. Ive also got to make a decision on where I am going to live and all that jazz. I have 2 months to prepare for this. Being an adult hard!  

So in order to be able to put my all into this I have to take a couple of months at most to sort everything out. I will get there! & I will be back fighting fit & ready to rock & roll!! I actually cant wait but I am terrified at the same time!! At the moment I am currently making plans for the coming year as regards to all things blogging as I intend on coming back with a bang (haha) 

I will try to have atleast one post up a week for the foreseeable future & then hopefully we can get back to schedule with both the beauty & lifestyle blogs!    

Thank you for your continued love & support

I will be back very soon my friends,

Love you all,