Wednesday, 28 January 2015

Mid-week Motivation || Dont sweat the small stuff!!

Hello Everyone!

Im back with another little post of motivation for you! 

Now since developing anxiety I have been struggling with this one myself . I think the with the modern way of life we live and just being human in gerneral we have a tendency to stress over things that in the grand scheme of things really dont matter. Show of hands for how many people have spent the night before a big event stressing about what they were going to wear or how much money it was going to cost them..?? Am I right? Yes because we all do it! Christmas is probably the worst time for self Inflicted stress but It happens on a day to day basis. 

I think If we were all to take a step back at that time where we feel stress and think Is this really a big deal? If the answer is yes, then I'm sorry but unfortunately sometimes bad things happen and theres nothing we do but be as strong as we can when facing the situation and brave through the storm. If the answer is no however then remember... This will all probably be forgotten very soon and tomorrow is a new day. So try not to sweat the small stuff. If you think back on your life right now I bet you cant even remember most of the things you have stressed about in the past 20 or so years and that's because they never really mattered in the first place. Unfortunately we have grown up in the technology era, which yes definitely has its perks or I would not be sitting here writing this for all you guys and would not be reading this where ever you are but it also has increased pressure on our lives even if we don't notice it. The business world has become corporate and competitive. Social media has boomed so now our only influences and judgments don't just come from the people we know but also loads of people we have never or will never meet in real life. Advertising is everywhere influencing everything from what blender to buy to where is the place to go on holidays. 

Yes this may sound like a rant about social media & technology but its really not all I'm saying is that all this global unitedness and fast communication comes at a price. we have more people to feel insecure next to,.. more companies to tell us what we should be doing or buying... It can all get a little over whelming sometimes. I do love social media, I'm actually hooked on some sites and blogging is now my passion which would never have existed without technology but every now and then I like to take a little break when it all gets too much and then I'm back refreshed and ready to take on the world again. So I repeat again try not to sweat the small stuff whether they be real life or internet based... In the end we are all in it together....If needed take so Me Time and then go back fighting fit!!

Do you ever feel like you are getting overwhelmed with daily life and stresses?? 
How do you relax and get pumped up again?

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Tuesday, 13 January 2015

The "Quarter Life Crisis"

Hey Girls,

So Last October I read a post by DizzyBrunette3 - Link to Blog and I thought it was interesting and saved it but I didn't really think much more about it. Then last night I speaking to a good friend about the issues I have been feeling with my anxiety and funnily enough it came up that maybe I was having some sort of Quarter Life Crisis! I will be 25 soon and its funny but that is how I'm feeling. I'm going to try and explain it in the best way I can.

When I was younger I had no worries (well I had lots of worries but they were life worries that were external to me not about who I was. I was always very sure I knew who I was) I have been through a lot in my short life... you name I have probably had to deal with it in some shape or form but I always got through it which kind of made me feel invincible and strong. I never thought about my mortality and I wasn't afraid of dying as I felt at my age statistically it was more than likely either a long way down the road or an accident which would make it quick, something I control of plan for. And another thing was my future... it was so far away I didn't have to worry about it? It would all figure itself out and besides I had plenty of time to worry about it! I was so focus on surviving today I didn't think about tomorrow...

Suddenly It all changed! Life is good now and apart from anxiety I don't have much to worry about. I have good family, friends, job and a path a want to head down in life. I may be single and I'm not quite sure if I'm just scared to get in another one or I want to be single because feelings on that change daily but I do want to find myself before I find anyone else..... also I think when the time is right I will know. But in general life is good and this was the most confusing thing! why am I having panic attacks, scary thoughts and feelings when everything is finally all working out?? I should be happy... 

I think now its just hitting me that I have a future and its getting closer to the present all the time! I'm realising my mortality and everything seems scary! I always had the self belief that I could do it all work hard, party hard, travel, have any career I wanted find the love of my life and it would all just happen! I feel like I'm finding the world for the first time and I'm suddenly confused about everything... my capabilities, my morals. I used to be quite black and white about the big things in life and suddenly everything's grey... I was confident in my abilities, I knew my flaws and I knew I wasn't perfect and had insecurities like everyone else but there was always someone worse off so I always I should lucky for and happy with what I got. Now I'm plagued with insecurities and what ifs.... what if I never fall in love ? What if I cant make the career I want? What if I cant get on a plane?  What if I'm crazy? What if this gets worse? What If I lose control? What If I feel like this forever? 

Its exhausting and hard to switch off. I am a person of logic and reason. Yes I am as ditzy, silly and crazy and the rest of them but when It comes to the big stuff I survive through logic and reason and I always got me though everything but when I got anxiety I searched for a reason and there seemed to be none. Most people from what I have researched develop anxiety from a traumatic incident and I have more than one I could share but I honestly don't think it was them unless its a straw that broke the camels back kind of dealy but now the way I'm feeling I think it has more to do with the fact that I am coming to a new chapter in my life and I feel totally unprepared!!  
I do still believe the Universe has its mysterious ways and this is a chance to learn more about myself and share to hopeful help others but most days I just wish it would go away and I didnt have to deal with it all the the time. Its tiring being so anxious all the time and trying to be a "normal person". I just feel emotionally tired and scared and I dont even know what Im scared of! 

Weirdly enough I it does make me feel better to know that this is a real thing and Its getting less likely that I am crazy. I hope this helped if anyone else out there is feeling this way. I'm actually nervous about posting this as believe it or not alot of people who know me personally will not know about this or even know I have anxiety... seems crazy but I'm not a big talker when it comes to my feelings so here it goes I suppose......  

Just as a side note its snowing outside my window as I am writing this and thats pretty cool! 

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Wednesday, 7 January 2015

Mid-week Motivation || The Universe has a Plan Right??

Hey Girlies,

I thought I would start writing some mid-week motivation posts. I thought that they might help for those days when your waiting for Friday to come or you just generally feeling like giving up and going to bed. This one was inspired by something I saw recently on facebook. It was a short video showing us just how big not only our universe but other universes actually are as-well. Basically I think the jist of it was we are very small haha. 

I personally am not very religious ( and I don't want to get into a big debate about it. Each to their own. Live and let Live is what I say! ) but I do believe the Universe has got to have a plan in some shape or form. 

Everything happens for a reason! Thats what my mam has always said to me and I couldn't agree more! Ill give you reasons for this belief! I always find when bad stuff happen that if I wait long enough Ill be able to find out the reason why.... there are some exceptions to the rule for some people but I try not have regrets as I believe that if everything had not fallen into place the way it has it would not have led my here or to where I am going to be in the future.

Does anyone remember that episode of How I Met Your Mother when ted is trying to catch a plane for a job Interview but misses it and the reason why can all be traced back to picking up a penny?? well its kinda like that. I believe sometimes random things happen in your life that at the time may not even seem significant but lead to a greater goal or purpose.  

One example although I have (many) Is about a year and half - Two years I broke up ago with somebody. It wasnt the worst break-up in the world but as you can imagine I was quite upset. Im fine now and believe me so much better off but, thats beside the point. At that time I was upset, lonely and feeling generally a bit lost. I was in the same job I had been in for years and he also worked there, college was over and not even complete, didnt know what to do with myself really just going on day by day. Then one night I decided I would look online for a tutourial on a smokey eye. I wasnt even sure if one exsisted... I know, so naive! I was going out for a night out that weekend and I want to rock a sexy smokey and decided I needed some tips. I happened upon Nicole Guerrieros page and once I watched her Dewy Skin & Bronzey Eyes Tutourial. I then continued to watch other videos she had created and then I decided to look for other YouTubers. From that night on I was hooked. I always loved make up and many people had always commented how I should be in the beauty industry but I always told them beauty was my hobby and I didnt want to ruin it by making it my job!! 
Soon however watching beauty gurus became my evening routine had sparked my passion for all things beauty once more. So I decided to look up beauty courses in college online. I was just in time for last applications so I took a chance, got an interview and got enroled! 

Not long after I learned about blogging and thought why not give it ago? whats the worst that could happen?? I was a little anxious but posted my first post on November 12th 2013. For a long time I was very inconsistant, what with college and everything but I realised I loved it and decided to start my own YouTube channel that is still currently very rough and ready and there are big plans for it this year but it does exsist. 

A little over a year later I now have 2 blogs - one Beauty and one Lifestyle, a YouTube channel, I am now a certified MUA and I have found my passion in life that I hope to continue into a career! 

This is just one of many examples that I could have given you If I had gotten a certain job - If I had stayed with a certain boyfriend - If I had went / not went to certain college.... I would never have met some people or had some experiances. 

I guess what Im trying to say is that no matter how lost you feel The Universe has a plan, you are on the path, you just dont know it sometimes. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life or who I wanted to do it with but I think day by day it becomes a little clearer. 

Remember its about the journey not the destination!!

Do you believe in Universal Power?

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Monday, 5 January 2015

2015 - Goals and Resolutions!

Well Hello There,

First of all HAPPY NEW YEAR!! and welcome to my first post of 2015!

I thought for my first post I would tell you guys all about my goals / resolutions for the new year. generally I never really believe in resolutions because I think they put pressure on you and ultimately make you feel bad at the end of the year if they havent been achieved but I think having goals is always a good thing to keep you motivated! whats the difference you say!? well for me I always associate resolutions with what I should do.....I should get healthier? I should learn this? Be more organised? save more? where as year round goals are made up of things I want to do..... I want to get healthier.... I want to save more..... I want to be more organised which automatically makes them seem more achievable for me. Its psycology more than anything else but I think if people make 'resolutions' more about what they want for the coming year and not about what they feel is expected of them then they would have more chance of achieving them as they would feel more motivated and less afraid of failure. Remember 'If at first you dont succeed.....theres always tequila' Im joking but I just mean theres always next year. At the end of the day whatever your goals or resolutions may be just have fun and enjoy whatever 2015 may bring!

Here are my goals and resolutions for 2015

Blogging and YouTubing

I love blogging but unfortunately my YouTube channel has been somewhat lacking in activity in previous months this has been for many reasons but in 2015 my plan is to make it bigger and better than ever. I have so many ideas and I cant wait to get the ball rolling. It may not happen immediately but it is all in the pipeline I promise. I also plan on organising my time better for more regular and consistent uploading both on channel and blogs!

Make the change / Be the change

I know it sounds really cliche but I have always been a believer that if you are unhappy with something your life than change it (depending on situation and within reason of course) but I dont see why anyone should have to put up with and live with a situation they are not happy with. Here I am not talking about anything specifically but in recent years I have forgotten to take chances and make changes and unfortunately when you have anxiety prospect of change makes you anxious so you tend to avoid it. Well this year when I feel anxious about something that I shouldn't be fearful about I am going to make the change  ~ Your choices should be based on logic, reason want and excitement, not fear ~


I want to save more so I can do more... Like travel and have more experiences. I am a fashion and beauty product hoarder and proud. I enjoy it!! but I think if I saved a bit more I would be able to enjoy more experiances and memories and honestly you cant put a price on that. Well airlines, hotels and shops give it a good go but the memories would be priceless. Also I think it would be nice to have a bit of savings so that if the mood took I could do something just because...  

Travel (Get on a plane)

This ties in with saving. This year I want to get back to traveling. Its been a long time since I was out of the country. When I was younger I never knew what I wanted to do when I grew up but I knew I wanted to travel the world. A whole lifetime (even if you live to be 100) is only a blink of an eye and why not see everything this beautiful planet has to offer. One of my lifetime goals has always been to see most mysterious, historical and great wonders of the world.These include

  • The Great Wall of China
  • Taj Mahal
  • Empire State Building
  • Golden Gate Bridge
  • The Great Barrier Reef
  • Pyrimids of Giza
  • The Aurora Borealis or Northern Lights
  • Lapland
  • Grand Canyon
  • Nevada Strip
  • Leaning tower of Piza 
  • Venice
The list goes on & on but like I said thats a lifetime goal.....Rome wasnt built in a day!! Rome is actually one of my favourite places in the world... Italy in general I have been their a couple of times but I have to back as I was unable at the time to get to The Vatican City and I really want see the story of creation by Micheal Angelo. I have seen the Mona Lisa though and that was also on my list. Anyway after all that ramble the reason that this a goal this year is , in the past I used to love travel , I used to love being on a plane , train , car ..... not bus for long travel but you name it I was the best traveller. Nothing phased me. Now since I developed anxiety I cant even look at a plane without feeling wierd! Its really thrown a spanner into the works. How can I travel the world and not get on a plane. But this year Im not going to hide anymore. I couldnt get on a bus in the begining and I can do that now so now its time to take on the big one.....

Read more 

I miss reading. I never seem to find the time. but thinking about it logically if I can find an hour to watch Teen Mom or Keeping up with the Kardashians then surely I can find a half an hour to read some of a book? Well this year I am going to make more of a conscious effort to read and Im starting with the new book I just purchased 2 days ago 'Girl Online' by Zoe Sugg

Pass my driving test

Ive got the ball rolling with the driving and got myself a car so next step is to pass the driving test! Scary but I can do it! Like everything else its just practice practice practice!


Again I made my start in 2014 but I want to continue so I can feel better and better. Plus some of the classes are so much fun which is doubled if you take a friend!!

So they are my goals / resolutions for 2015. Hopefully I will achieve them all but if I dont ...... There's always Tequila! hah! One Last thing remember when your making your resolutions make them achievable. What I mean by this is that there is no point in planning to lose weight go to the gym 8 hours a day for a month and then burn yourself out. Start small and work way up (as with everything - just like my little blog) and you will surprised with the results!!

Do you have any Goals / Resolutions this year??


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